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Marianne submitted a question yesterday (Thanks for being the first one to raise your hand!!)

Can you resolve a conflict with a parent after they are deceased?




Reply: Yes and No. 

Yes in the aspect that a person's soul never dies and of course we all know the body does. So physical communication ends at the time of the corporeal demise, however...souls are still in existence and awareness. The soul crosses over into the light at some point (from minutes to weeks) after it has cut ties with the body. At that point the soul has an almost immediate sense of lightness and awareness of all the love that surrounds it. Then the soul has a chance to review life circumstances, making the soul aware of short comings and opportunities for healing. 

The soul may not be here to "talk" to you and work things out after physical death,  but the soul CAN hear you and resolution may be, in fact. easier than when it was inhabited within a physical body with the ego and stubbornness and all that crap!! ( Don't we so often fight over who is right??) 

No in the aspect that you won't get an actual apology on paper or a delivery of flowers or a heartfelt all encompassing accountability of responsibility....but you can still begin the conversation. 

The Spiritual stuff to do if you need to resolve a conflict with a Loved One (Living On in Spirit) or LOLOS as we call them around here....

1. Create some sacred space ( quiet space with some relaxing or meditative music, candles and paper and pen).

 2. Invite your LOLOS to come meet you. Speak to the person alod and literally invite them to come join you. ( you can also set a time in advance by saying something like, Hey on Friday I am off and I would like us to sit down and talk at 3p, that's when I can make time for this important talk with you. Please join me.)

3. Sit down and clear your mind with a few deep breaths or a prayer.

You can try mine if you like:

God, as we open the door to communication, In the Unity of the Holy Spirit, 

I give thanks, for I know, The words spoken will be filled with your love, truth, wisdom and understanding of the highest. Amen.

4. Use your inner eye and visualize a bench in a rose garden, perfect sunny day, perfect temperature, no one else around and tell your LOLOS it's the time to meet you in your mind. Tell them you are waiting in the rose garden and they can come sit next to you on the bench. 

5. Take a deep breath or two as you imagine them walking in to greet you. ( maybe there is a kiss or embrace, or high five for all I know)

6. Tell your LOLOS that you want more than anything to resolve the conflict that was left unfinished. 

7. Give or ask them for forgiveness. Give or ask them for a message. Give or ask them for an answer or whatever it is that you may need in order to more forward. 

8. Thank them...and set your mind to leave the garden. 

9. Grab your pencil and paper and jot down a few things before you forget what happened.

If you or anyone you know may need help performing this sort of conversation,  a healing session with Medium can be used for this purpose. We can actually lead you into a healing conversation like this. You don't have to do it alone. 



I hope this helps and you can get what you need to move forward. 

If not, talk to a clergy member, a therapist or wiseperson/friend...or Me. 

Chi Chi (Rev. Rivera)




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